Learning to sit in the softness of your heart
Learning to sit in the quiet stillness of my heart continues to be a daily practice and discipline that I resist & fight at every turn.
For many years, I wandered in the relative darkness of my ego—always relying on my intellect and mind. Whilst our mind has many roles to play, to live only from this place is a bone-dry space to occupy. It means we live our lives rooted in fear. This manifests in different ways - distraction, denial & an unwillingness to own our shit, even after years of Doing The Work.
The problem with living only from the mind is that we start believing whatever story it tells us. Many of these stories aren’t helpful; some are simply not true - and they keep us stuck. Repeating the same patterns, behaviours & habits over and over again.
It wasn’t always this way.
As a small child, I was deeply creative, joyful & happy. But then I experienced significant trauma & abuse from people who were supposed to take care of me, and that deeply creative, soulful, heart-centred me was buried deep under the protective layers of the intellect. It was a survival tactic.
Of course, my intellect has served me well for many years. But I don’t want to live a bone-dry life. I want to live an expansive, rich, spacious, wholehearted, loving, and generous life. I want to be present in my life in as many moments as possible, even when it feels gritty, hard and exhausting, especially during these times.
We have become so conditioned to distract ourselves when we feel uncomfortable. But the gold is found when learning to sit with discomfort - resisting the urge to do something (anything) else.
Commit to mining the gold of your life by giving yourself space to be quiet. To rest. To contemplate. To sit with. Allow yourself to sit in the softness of your heart.
With gentleness, with kindness.
And watch as your life slowly, beautifully, transforms.
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